January 8, 2005

• OK, I don't know what you're all talking about when you want "details". 

  
  

  My first marriage, we decided on one Saturday to get married the next, after knowing each other for 3 months.  We were so broke, we didn't exchange rings or anything material, just love and adoration.  I learned early on, watching some of my friends marriages, that a ring really doesn't mean a whole lot if you can't stand being in the house with him.  So I honestly never felt like I was missing out on anything......I had my best friend and companion, and I was happy.

  
  

  I have had a few people say that they think this is a bit "soon", to make up my mind about something like this, but I was talking to one of my aunts about it, and her reply was "You knew what you were doing the first time, and people thought that then too!  You proved them wrong and had a marraige they were all jealous of."  That is very true.  I won the "Husband Lottery", and I was very thankful to the Universe for that.

  
  

  Now I feel like I have somehow, in spite of myself, been blessed again.  I have found another wonderful man who adores me, and I him.  I feel good, I feel comfortable, I feel blessed.  I'm older, wiser, and stronger by far than when I was 19, and I'm starting to look forwards again for the first time in 23 months.  I am always mentally pinching myself, I don't feel like I have done anything to deserve this happiness.  But I'm thankful!  You betcha!

  
  

  Well for our engagement we got matching watches, mine and his. (They are the big ones featured on the pages.)  I wanted a nice watch so much more than a skinny little engagement ring.  I know some of you will think that is completely nuts, that only a ring will do, but after reading the above, that I've never even worn a wedding ring, maybe you can understand that an engagement ring is just not that important to me.  Now a badass watch, that's another matter entirely!  We're going to get them engraved once we get dates sorted out.

  
  

  Now, he's already bought the ring, I'm having it sized, so when we're ready to marry, everything is in order.  He got me a .72 carat round diamond and platinum ring.  Man is it ever gorgeous!  I have never had a ring like this in my life!  And I'm excited!

  
  

  Aren't we funny!?!  We haven't even set a date! LOL!

  
  

  We have some people that we wanted to be our witnesses, and I don't want to set a date until they are ready to be happy for us.  It means too much to me.  I want them smiling and wishing us well, not upset that we are getting married.  No, it's not my kids, I wouldn't do this if it upset my kids, but they are both OK with it.  They just requested that I keep my late husbands last name and add a hyphen.  It was easy to say yes to that, because it was already what I had planned to do!  

  
  

   That was a great relief, my son was dragging his feet when I first started dating Rick, but he has come to like him, talk to him, ask him for guitar playing advice.  He is accepting now that I am not going to go into a convent, and my life did not stop at age 39, when my husband passed away.  Both of my children see that I am happy, and can tell that Rick is a big part of that happiness.  I still have a lot of living to do!  And I have a lot of life inside of me, bursting to come out.

  
  

  Soooooooooo, are we having a "wedding"? Are we going to go to the Justice of the Peace?  Are we going to run off to Vegas?  I DON"T KNOW!

  
  

  I would love to have a small wedding outside somewhere beautiful, the problem with that is a bunch of people will want to come.  Going to the JP is only an option if we can get the witnesses we want.  Vegas sounds like a blast, but I'd want our kids to go too, so thats a planning nightmare.

  
  

  So, I'm not going to keep talking about this, driving you all crazy.  Only when I know something definite will I speak of this again, little grasshoppers!

  
  

  Hope you are all having a great weekend!

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