November 19, 2005
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Sorry!!!!!!!!! This new job is kicking my butt!
I’ll take that 20 bucks Lou!
I’ve been taking photos of bridges, there’s bunches of them around here…
I really enjoy the driving around, taking pictures, being nosy, looking at cool houses part of my job, but the paperwork! Ugh! I spend hours on the computer every day, and once I’m done with work, I don’t want to look at the monitor for one more second! I’m having scads of fun working on the house, unpacking, rearranging……..I really need to get the Christmas stuff down from the attic.
Thanksgiving is at my house!!! I need a head count of who’s gonna be here………one, two, three……uh huh, how about you? No, too busy? OK, more cherry cheese pie for me!
I have to admit I’ve been a bit down lately, my son moved out……….now I’m a real live empty nester. Rick and I went over to check out his new digs, and I didn’t cry till we were back out in the parking lot! Woot! Rick was proud of me! Who said kids could just up and move out, and move away? Especially 2 months from each other? Where do I go to complain about this?
Maybe this is part of the facsination with Bridges right now, I’m crossing over one, want to or not, ready or not, there’s some new, untamed land over on this side, which is exciting I admit, but I still look wistfully backwards, trying to catch glimpses of that old life, left on the other side.
My daughter got a promotion on her job already. Dang it! I got her an airplane ticket to come home for Christmas, but I have to get over the Thanksgiving-and-no-girl-here hump first. She’s so good to e-mail me and call on the phone, but I’m so paranoid about this phone stuff………..My mom will talk to me on the phone for a long time, telling me the same things over and over, she’s a “discusser”, and I can apprieciate that now, but there were times when I wanted to yank myself baldheaded and yell “I know! You’ve said that 5 times already!!”, but I didn’t.
Then there’s my old mother-in-law, the only thing she ever said to me on the phone was “Is Bob there?”,…………. no “Hi!”, or “how’s it hangin?”, just straight to the point, she didn’t have time to waste on me.
So there’s my dilemma when talking to my girl, I don’t want her to roll her eyes when she sees my name on her caller ID, but I don’t want to be too short with her either and make her feel like she’s not important to me, so everytime we’re talking, I’m trying to say what I feel I need to say ONE TIME ONLY, yet have a conversation for a few minutes if she has the time……….
Do any of you worry over this kind of stuff? Am I insane? OK, don’t answer that last question……..
*sigh* I love these two turkeys………Happy Thanksgiving to all of you! Kiss your loved ones and tolerate the rest! So many wonderful Xanga friends, I truly wish you all a blessed and peaceful holiday! Mwa!
Comments (26)
Woo hoo! She’s alive! That’s got to be tough on you, both of your babies gone from home. I’m sure they still love you and think the world of you. And no, I doubt your daughter would ever roll her eyes at you. *hugs*
LOL…great minds think alike?
I love your pictures! The bridges are a good idea. I went to Iowa several summers ago to photograph all the bridges of Madison County:) I also like to snap pictures of little country churches.
AW…MOM….LETTING GO OF THE LITTLE CHICKIES IS TOUGH…but you and Rick can run around naked and dance with the music cranked up, save a ton of money on groceries, and turn one bedroom into a library or whatever. My bedroom became an upstairs den the week I left…ok…I got the message…lol…seriously, you’ll be alright. You know they love you and they know you love them. Just be yourself on the phone, and when you’re missing them, just tell them. That’s the kind of phone love I got from my mom, and I loved it. Your kids know where you’re coming from and they wouldn’t want you to be any other way but yourself. I love you, Shellie. I’m sorry you don’t have time to blog hardly, and I miss you. So does everyone else.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving, even with the emply seat at the table, and think of Christmas, when you’ll have both of your babies home with you…
Well, I’m glad to know you are still alive and with us. Sorry your new job is working you over.
Why does your son look like he’s ready to beat you up?
My mother loves the old bridges. Especially the covered ones. They remind me of a Currier and Ives picture!
Great pictures as usual. I am pleasantly suprised whenever I check here and you have blogged! I miss your posts! Good insight about the bridges we cross. And Yes I do think about how my kids percieve my phone calls. I tell my girl if I start to go on & on about medical stuff to tell me to shut up! That is OLD people talk. My son doesn’t like to be quizzed so i email him and then he can tell me what he wants to. It is great to have the empty nest-more lovin’! When they come home for a visit though we hang on thier every word. And I notice hubby huggin’ them more too. they don’t seem to mind! Love the new seasons as they come- go ahead and cross the bridge with joyous expectations! hugs! emlee
Those bridge photos are gorgeous! It is a beautiful part of the country.
I hadn’t thought about that “rolling eyes” thing on the phone but I do it to my mother… and I’m guessing my daughter does it to me. Thanks for bringing it to my attention.
Well, I have to agree – 2 kids moving out within a few months of each other is over the top – that’s a lot to have to adjust to. I’m so glad you and Rick have each other. I wouldn’t worry about the phone conversations, I’d just try my hardest to be myself and be supportive and loving and affirming – nobody can resist that combination.
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving and don’t work too hard. I love the pics, as usual.
The pictures are beautiful! You’re a very talented photographer
No you are not insane, just a normal ,very normal mother.You will gradually get used to having time for yourself and enjoy Rick all on your own. You know where they are, always in touch. When my son Franco left home, I turned his room into my study, I didn’t miss his piles of football washing, I actually got more quality time with him after he left. Have a super Sunday. Love all your pictures, you are definetely on the other side of the bridge now, don’t look back or down, you could feel dizzy! lOOK AHEAD EVERY TIME.
RITA
Yay !! You’re back !! If your kids have moved out and you haven’t completely lost your marbles, I am in awe. I know that day is coming, but I haven’t a clue how I’ll handle it.
As for talking to your daughter on the phone ? It’s better to say too much than to not say enough. Say what’s in your heart and you can’t go wrong.
Please don’t be gone so long the next time
Thanksgiving is ALWAYS at my house! Only 4 of us and various b/f’s and g/f’s yearly. . .so, it’s always me doing the dinner, which is okay with me. I love my own cooking! I don’t know what to tell you honey about both of your kids moving out. . .I haven’t experienced anything like that yet. . .I’m still hoping they’ll be around for a bit! But I like your idea about the phone conversations. .. and besides, even if she does roll her eyes now, when she has kids of her own and has to go through what your going through, she’ll finally understand. As they will understand so much more after they have families of their own. . .we just have to have the patience to wait! Love you sweetie. . .you have a wonderful Thanksgiving and I’ll be thinking about you~K.K.
M’Lady
Just a reminder that the THREE LITTLE THANKFUL’S is due tomorow (Monday). . .
I’m hoping you’ll be joining us in this little Holiday exercise!
May you have a brilliant day!~Kween
I know letting go can probably be hard. I dont know the exact feeling because I’m not a parent yet, but I’m sure I will know sooner or later. My boyfriends mom is having a very hard time with the fact that we may move. I feel really bad, but to be honest its better for us as a couple where we are going. It’s just too expensive where we live now, and I really dont want to live with my mother in law to be . You do seem like a nester, but I think you’ll get used to it in awhile. Just think of all the private romantic moments you and rick can have now!!! And your kids will always be there for you and always love you, and they are only a phone call away. It’s hard and I wish and hope you the best at this emotional time.
By the way I love the pictures!!! You have a wonderful Thanksgiving as well Shell
My mom wonders the same things about the phone calls, then worries if we like her still…its so silly. Just gotta be yourself:) Pics are beautiful as always!
ryc: thats WOW aka World of Warcraft, its an massive multiplayer online role play game, aka mmorpg. I’ve played these for years, this is my current choice.
Beautiful pictures! Your very talented! My youngst daughter moved out and away last month. I find it a very hard thing to go through. But I’m dealing the best I can. I don’t think I roll my eyes when my mom calls. I thinks she roll her eyes at me!! We don’t get the chance to talk as much as I would like. And by the time we do, I have so much to share with her, I end up talking her ear off, and then I end up feeling bad.
Wow–those are some beautiful photos, especially of the bridges. We’ve got some beautiful scenery here in PA, but I seldom take time to go out and photograph it.
I really loved to pic of you and your youngun’s, too. Happy Thanksgiving week!
you know…now that i think about it, you’re right…we do have a lot of bridges around these parts!
i’ll be away for about a week or so, but definitely would love to get together with you and rick when i get back. wishing you guys well!! 
Awww. I’m sorry. That would drive me nuts too. I still have 3 at home, but won’t know what to do when they are gone. I would worry about those same things. I know you will do it right with the phone thing though, just cause your good like that and your concientious about it. Miss your posts. Thanks for stopping by. Have a great Thanksgiving and the cherry cheese pie sounds awsome.
OK! So I wanted to share with the world you in your cute jammies singing and dancing on a couch???? So!
Your cute!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You will never deny me my Lesbian rights cause you could never resist me! ha!
I didn’t sub to you cause I lost track of time and didn’t have any more to sit here and sub to everyone! Your special anyway…..I will be subbing to Katherine and then you, save the best for last you know~
I love you with all of my heart and if i could ease your growing pains I would but I haven’t even figured how to ease my own, so your on your own with this one bud! You have a nice man there (hot!!!) to help you through and your very wise. I am always here too!
Working tomorrow and Tuesday then off for 5 days!!!!!! Vacation! Yippeeeee! Call me! Let’s at least do a movie!
Well it’s good to hear from you again! Lovely pics. Interesting times. I think I can’t wait to be an empty nester, but I’m so excited about the 19-year old coming home for T-day I’m actually going to cook! Good you’re keeping so busy anyway, right? You are so funny–your thoughts sounds exactly like mine, so we’re probably both insane.
Both of my oldest two girls moved out around the same time. And yeah, it was really hard, wanting to keep in touch but not make them feel like I was meddling in their newly independent lives. No real advice here, but ((((HUG)))) I know how it feels.
Hmmmmm, thanksgiving at your house? Heh heh, wouldn’t it be funny if northwest Xangans converged on Eugene (isn’t it?), lolol.
Love you~
Sandy
About your girl and the phone…I try to keep my phone calls down to a minimum with her, for just that reason.
We email ’bout every day. That’s how we stay in touch.
Sure sorry you’re going through such a time, kids moving, you moving, new job…you’ve had so much to deal with in such a short time. I have no fear that you will handle it wonderfully.
Great pics!! I’ll be thinking of you this Thanksgiving!
I’m sure she’ll roll her eyes at you about something no matter what you do. It’s the mother-daughter dance. There’s no escaping it. The good news is that she loves you anyway and she’s probably wrestling with the same questions about talking to you. She wants to be independent now but she misses her mommy. You’ll know in an instant how much she’s missed you the second she squeezes you the next time you see her and you can barely breathe! I love you Shellie. And I’ve missed you tons.
I’m jealous of luv2blog. She can go to the movies with ya! She can give you a hug when you’re feeling all empty-nested. *HUGS*